Different, Until It's Normal
Unless you accept the discomfort of something different, you will never be able to move in a healthy way with changing times.
It will always be different, until different becomes normal. Yet, you have a built-in tendency to resist the challenge of accepting a person, a situation or a concept that is new and, well, different. Even if that difference is going to benefit you. There are many reasons why you favor familiarity, from the ease of understanding what you know to your mind preferring the easy route to action based on past results. However, unless you accept the discomfort of something different, you will never be able to move in a healthy way with changing times. At ESQL World, we use the concept of ‘Different, Until It’s Normal’ as a tool to help your mind accept positive changes. Here are five ways how this concept can help as an anchor during changing times.
- Acceptance. Recognising that change brings different experiences and you can be aware and accepting of the different aspects, enables you to take a deeper look at what it is exactly that is new for you or a challenge. It also tells your mind that it is okay not to be in control and to observe without action.
- Objectivity. Fear is fuelled by the unknown or missing information that your mind magnifies into a big threat. By questioning yourself to discover what exactly about the differences is causing your tension, you can zoom into the specific part of the situation that you feel is causing your generalised resistance. This is often an instant stress-buster as it engages your rational thinking enabling you to talk yourself down from imagined danger.
- Confidence. ‘Different, Until It’s Normal’ tells your mind that it will soon be normal. This moves your mind forward, reducing the perceived discomfort and positioning the experience as one that will pass. It also non-consciously taps into previous experiences that you successfully achieved new normals building your resilience in dealing with your immediate changes.
- Direction. By engaging your thinking to how a situation is different to what you know or knew enables you to engage your mind is evaluating how you would process and work through the changes. This is invaluable, because it moves you to foreseeing hurdles, planning and organising your solutions, which helps you move to the new normal quicker and will more mindful observation.
- Reconciling. The idea that experiences are simply perceptions that can move, mutate, and change form means we can experience them without judgement. This enables us to integrate events and activities that are occurring and form new insights to the benefits and opportunities that they bring.
Like watching the thunder and lightening of a storm and knowing the next day will be a beautiful day, the practice of changing your perception of change will help you feel more optimism about the future and trust that positive changes will bring positive gains.
Chaos is only chaotic when you try to command it. Brain-friendly tools like this one, can help you deal with the short-term impact of change and help you let go of wanting to control the uncontrollable. Like watching the thunder and lightening of a storm and knowing the next day will be a beautiful day, the practice of changing your perception of change will help you feel more optimism about the future and trust that positive changes will bring positive gains.